Do you think this person is a true friend or not? He encouraged me to smoke/drink once in a while b/c problems?

This person said to calm my nerves down, because of the family problems 've been having, I should smoke a cigarette or drink a bit of alcohol every now and then and even find a boyfriend and have with him. Is this what a true friend would advise someone to deal with problems? He said do this once in a while, NOT often, like drink/smoke once in a while, but don't become an alcoholic/smoker. He said I should have too. Would a real friend advise this? Someone else said a true friend would NEVER advise you to do these vices, even IF once in a while. We're adults, so I'm of age. Howeve, this doesn'[t seem right to me. In fact, it could make problems worse. With the , there are STDs, pregnancies9condoms do break, remember), and other emotional problems you can wind up with. Smoking and drinking, even if once in a while, can lead to dependency, as if u frequently have problems with your family at home,, then you might naturally want to go to these things for reprieve. Is this a person whom I should avoid and cut off ties with, for my own safety? Why or why not?